God is Not the God of Disappointment with Wes Raley

God is Not the God of Disappointment with Wes Raley

Speaker and author Wes Raley wants you to know that God is not the God of disappointment. You do not have do automatically doubt your desires or fear that God will let you down. Sometimes God is making you thirst for the very thing He is going to bring you. Wes has written two books on God’s will for your life and relationships called “7 Signs that God has Someone for You” and “The Perfect Match: Finding the ONE you were made for.” Listen to this interview for more.

20 Minutes • 5 months ago

Episode Notes

Charisma Connection

God is Not the God of Disappointment

with Wes Raley

Countless numbers of people wonder if God has someone out there for them. Fears of lifelong singleness can easily creep in when we don’t have certainty about what God is promising us.

The Bible gives clear direction for how to have discernment in this area, and speaker and author Wes Raley wants you to know that God is not the God of disappointment. Wes has written two books on God’s will for your life and relationships called 7 Signs that God has Someone for You and The Perfect Match: Finding the One You Were Made For.

 

Bio Info

·        Wife: Korie

·        Children: Isaac, Grace, Luke, and Valorie.

·        Residence: Indiana

After many years of waiting, Wes and Korie finally found each other and are happily enjoying God's perfect match. They continue to coach singles and couples from the wisdom of God's Word and the lessons learned through their times of singleness, dating, engagement, and marriage; and, then openly share their struggles and breakthroughs has helped many people walk in healthy, fulfilling, God-centered relationship. You can learn more about their ministry at perfectmatchcoaching.com.

Why Wes Wrote His Books

The line of relationship coaches that are sort of secondary to the prophetic ministry the Lord's called me to. My two books that I’ve written about God’s will for your life and relationships. But many of the principles are values that are true across the boards, not just specific to relationships. And the main idea or big catalyst I think that the Lord has given me in recent years and leading up to writing these books has been the He’s not the God of disappointment. I have a lot of Christian friends as many of us do, and I feel like in our day, we try to shield ourselves from disappointment. And there's certain things we do to almost try to prop God up. If he doesn't come through, it meant that you didn't hear from him accurately. Or, maybe that wasn’t the promise He gave you. I think over time, the Lord has really just placed on my heart the desire to fully trust Him, to truly listen to what He’s saying and believe what He’s promising to walk in our destinies. The catalyst for these books throughout has been Psalm 37:4:

·        Psalm 37:4: “Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” (MEV)

Your Desire, God’s Plan

Wes Raley: I have a lot of friends who gave me a lot of pushback in writing these books because they were concerned, and rightly so in many ways, that we wouldn’t want to overpromise that God has a spouse for everyone. Many have been given the gift of singleness. But their concern was that maybe that is just a desire you have and it’s not from the Lord. While it’s true that we always need to surrender and submit our desires to the Lord and allow him to transform those, the greater reality is that we do have the mind of Christ. We’ve been given new hearts under the new covenant. We don't have to constantly question our desires. The Lord, a lot of times will actually show you what He’s promising by placing a desire within your heart. And, so, I love that verse because it says that if you delight yourself in the Lord, He’ll give you the desires of your heart. It’s not some twisted thing where He’s always opposing our desires or going against what we want.

·        Matthew 7:11: “If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your father who is in Heaven give good things to those who ask him?” (MEV)

Teaching His Children

Wes Raley: Only a bad father would give his children the opposite of what they’re asking for. I have four children myself, and I’m coming to understand that I want to give them all the things that are healthy for them to have at the stage that they’re in. Things that are good for them, if they have desires that are actually healthy for them, I'm happy to fulfill those desires. But there are certain things that are not good for them that they may want. Obviously those are things that they need to have more maturity before they can receive those things. For example, driving a car, or perhaps it’s not a healthy desire, and those are things that we’re shaping and changing.

Healthy Desires

Taylor Berglund: How do you know whether a desire within you is a healthy one? Or, if it’s an unhealthy one that ultimately isn’t going to benefit you as a person?

Wes Raley: That's a great question. That scenario depends on if you’re asking the grandparents or the parents because with the grandparents, sugar would all be a good thing. We're constantly fighting that battle. But on a sincere note, that verse really summarizes so much for us that if we would just delight ourselves in the Lord, he'll give us the desires of our hearts. And we understand that the closer we draw to God our desires are transformed know.

·        1 John 3:2: Beloved, now are we children of God, and it has not yet been revealed what we shall be. But we know that when He appears, we shall be like Him, for we shall see Him as He is.”

In 1 John, we read that when we see Jesus, we will become like Him because we’ll see Him as He is. We’re transformed into his image from one degree of glory to another as we read in Second Corinthians. The point really isn’t worrying so much about every motive of our heart, but delighting ourselves in the Lord. I actually think the bigger danger is are we trying to bring about those desires on our own? Are we trying to force those things to happen? Or, are we simply you know, like children, just resting and delighting in our Father's love and His affection and his arms? I think that our focus actually needs to shift altogether from the desires to actually simple delight in the Lord. And honestly, I think if you take a poll among most believers, we probably all have to say, yeah, I’m kind of erring on the side of trying to make my plan come to pass, or make this promise come to pass, rather than just giving it all over to the Lord in complete surrender and trust and learning this sort of ambiguous thing, perhaps, of what it looks like to delight our entire beings in the Lord.

·        2 Corinthians 3:18: But we all, seeing the glory of the Lord with unveiled faces, as in a mirror, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory by the Spirit of the Lord.”

·        Proverbs 3:5-6: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not unto your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths.”

 

Trust in God

Wes Raley: We know He’s not the God of confusion; He is the God of peace. But there are times in our lives where we are not going to be able to figure everything out. We simply need to trust Him. The Bible says that we cling to things unseen, we walk by faith and not by sight. So much of our faith can be tempered by what we see. I have friends that say, well, what about this example, and what about this example? And I don't think that those examples are untrue. I just know that there are certain times in our lives where I cannot allow some of those negative reports to influence the way I view the character of God, and especially the way I view those promises He's given me.  

Website

·        Perfectmatchcoaching.com

·        Free resources: Videos, blog

·        Download a free chapter of The Perfect Match

·        Enroll in E-Courses here

·        Free coaching consultation for singles

 

Social Media, Coming Soon

·        Facebook

·        A third book, Forsaking All Others: How to Have a Marriage Worth Leaving all Behind

Episode Notes

Charisma Connection

God is Not the God of Disappointment

with Wes Raley

Countless numbers of people wonder if God has someone out there for them. Fears of lifelong singleness can easily creep in when we don’t have certainty about what God is promising us.

The Bible gives clear direction for how to have discernment in this area, and speaker and author Wes Raley wants you to know that God is not the God of disappointment. Wes has written two books on God’s will for your life and relationships called 7 Signs that God has Someone for You and The Perfect Match: Finding the One You Were Made For.

 

Bio Info

·        Wife: Korie

·        Children: Isaac, Grace, Luke, and Valorie.

·        Residence: Indiana

After many years of waiting, Wes and Korie finally found each other and are happily enjoying God's perfect match. They continue to coach singles and couples from the wisdom of God's Word and the lessons learned through their times of singleness, dating, engagement, and marriage; and, then openly share their struggles and breakthroughs has helped many people walk in healthy, fulfilling, God-centered relationship. You can learn more about their ministry at perfectmatchcoaching.com.

Why Wes Wrote His Books

The line of relationship coaches that are sort of secondary to the prophetic ministry the Lord's called me to. My two books that I’ve written about God’s will for your life and relationships. But many of the principles are values that are true across the boards, not just specific to relationships. And the main idea or big catalyst I think that the Lord has given me in recent years and leading up to writing these books has been the He’s not the God of disappointment. I have a lot of Christian friends as many of us do, and I feel like in our day, we try to shield ourselves from disappointment. And there's certain things we do to almost try to prop God up. If he doesn't come through, it meant that you didn't hear from him accurately. Or, maybe that wasn’t the promise He gave you. I think over time, the Lord has really just placed on my heart the desire to fully trust Him, to truly listen to what He’s saying and believe what He’s promising to walk in our destinies. The catalyst for these books throughout has been Psalm 37:4:

·        Psalm 37:4: “Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” (MEV)

Your Desire, God’s Plan

Wes Raley: I have a lot of friends who gave me a lot of pushback in writing these books because they were concerned, and rightly so in many ways, that we wouldn’t want to overpromise that God has a spouse for everyone. Many have been given the gift of singleness. But their concern was that maybe that is just a desire you have and it’s not from the Lord. While it’s true that we always need to surrender and submit our desires to the Lord and allow him to transform those, the greater reality is that we do have the mind of Christ. We’ve been given new hearts under the new covenant. We don't have to constantly question our desires. The Lord, a lot of times will actually show you what He’s promising by placing a desire within your heart. And, so, I love that verse because it says that if you delight yourself in the Lord, He’ll give you the desires of your heart. It’s not some twisted thing where He’s always opposing our desires or going against what we want.

·        Matthew 7:11: “If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your father who is in Heaven give good things to those who ask him?” (MEV)

Teaching His Children

Wes Raley: Only a bad father would give his children the opposite of what they’re asking for. I have four children myself, and I’m coming to understand that I want to give them all the things that are healthy for them to have at the stage that they’re in. Things that are good for them, if they have desires that are actually healthy for them, I'm happy to fulfill those desires. But there are certain things that are not good for them that they may want. Obviously those are things that they need to have more maturity before they can receive those things. For example, driving a car, or perhaps it’s not a healthy desire, and those are things that we’re shaping and changing.

Healthy Desires

Taylor Berglund: How do you know whether a desire within you is a healthy one? Or, if it’s an unhealthy one that ultimately isn’t going to benefit you as a person?

Wes Raley: That's a great question. That scenario depends on if you’re asking the grandparents or the parents because with the grandparents, sugar would all be a good thing. We're constantly fighting that battle. But on a sincere note, that verse really summarizes so much for us that if we would just delight ourselves in the Lord, he'll give us the desires of our hearts. And we understand that the closer we draw to God our desires are transformed know.

·        1 John 3:2: Beloved, now are we children of God, and it has not yet been revealed what we shall be. But we know that when He appears, we shall be like Him, for we shall see Him as He is.”

In 1 John, we read that when we see Jesus, we will become like Him because we’ll see Him as He is. We’re transformed into his image from one degree of glory to another as we read in Second Corinthians. The point really isn’t worrying so much about every motive of our heart, but delighting ourselves in the Lord. I actually think the bigger danger is are we trying to bring about those desires on our own? Are we trying to force those things to happen? Or, are we simply you know, like children, just resting and delighting in our Father's love and His affection and his arms? I think that our focus actually needs to shift altogether from the desires to actually simple delight in the Lord. And honestly, I think if you take a poll among most believers, we probably all have to say, yeah, I’m kind of erring on the side of trying to make my plan come to pass, or make this promise come to pass, rather than just giving it all over to the Lord in complete surrender and trust and learning this sort of ambiguous thing, perhaps, of what it looks like to delight our entire beings in the Lord.

·        2 Corinthians 3:18: But we all, seeing the glory of the Lord with unveiled faces, as in a mirror, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory by the Spirit of the Lord.”

·        Proverbs 3:5-6: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not unto your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths.”

 

Trust in God

Wes Raley: We know He’s not the God of confusion; He is the God of peace. But there are times in our lives where we are not going to be able to figure everything out. We simply need to trust Him. The Bible says that we cling to things unseen, we walk by faith and not by sight. So much of our faith can be tempered by what we see. I have friends that say, well, what about this example, and what about this example? And I don't think that those examples are untrue. I just know that there are certain times in our lives where I cannot allow some of those negative reports to influence the way I view the character of God, and especially the way I view those promises He's given me.  

Website

·        Perfectmatchcoaching.com

·        Free resources: Videos, blog

·        Download a free chapter of The Perfect Match

·        Enroll in E-Courses here

·        Free coaching consultation for singles

 

Social Media, Coming Soon

·        Facebook

·        A third book, Forsaking All Others: How to Have a Marriage Worth Leaving all Behind

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