Story Map Your Life to Help Others with Tammy Hotsenpiller

Story Map Your Life to Help Others with Tammy Hotsenpiller

The pain you have been through has a purpose. Listen as guest Tammy Hotsenpiller directs you to identify who you are and find out what you do through storytelling. Start with a story map of your experiences, pain, and joys to see the commonalities. Hear how your story is used by God to influence others. Learn more about Tammy's Story Club at tammyhotsenpiller.com.

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Episode Notes

Greenelines with

Dr. Steve Greene

Guest: Tammy Hotsenpiller

The pain you have been through has a purpose. Listen as guest Tammy Hotsenpiller directs you to identify who you are and find out what you do through storytelling. Start with a story map of your experiences, pain, and joys to see the commonalities. Hear how your story is used by God to influence others.

Learn more about Tammy's Story Club at tammyhotsenpiller.com.

Introduction

Dr. Steve Greene: I was at a grocery store this weekend, and I observed something that's worth talking about for a little bit before I introduce a great guest. You're going to be so excited about this show, so don't leave. If you don't like me, hang on, we're going to like my guest. The story I want to tell you is about a little kid that I saw going down the aisle with his mom. He was in the basket, all cute, a two-year-old little boy. I was kinda loving on him and liking him. And then he came to a place where he could reach out and grab this package of light bulbs. They are in a little yellow package. It’s not in the toy aisle or anything, but this little one decided he wanted the light bulbs. So, he reached out, grabbed them and put them into buggy and his sweet mother said now, little son. She may not have said it quite like I'm going to say it, but you need to put the light bulbs back. That's not a toy. Of course, the little boy didn't want to put the light bulbs back. He was not in any shape to put them back. But she took him from him. The mother that she is, she took away his light bulbs and put them back on the shelf. And, of course, he began to be a two-year-old and throw a little fit, get loud, started to cry and fuss and all he could say was toy,  toy! He kept saying it throughout the distance of his ride in the grocery store. He went all the way through the store crying for toy, and toy. Wherever he was, I tried to be as far away as I could get, because he was loud and he was insistent. His mother just kept smiling. I watched her. She was my study more than the little one because I teach a parenting class on Wednesday nights. I was thinking, oh, this is a good story. I'm going to be able to use this one. But I was waiting for her to do something, and she did. She just smiled and didn't say a word to him. She did not interact with him at all. She smiled, put groceries in the basket and eventually got a full little buggy and got up to the checkout counter. She took one thing at a time out of the checkout buggy at the checkout counter, and the little one was like screaming. Everyone around was saying, like, you going do something? We’ll help you. I was again, staying far enough away that I could handle the decibels, but still observing her. She was doing so good. She was smiling. didn't say a word to the little sweet thing. didn't do anything at all to correct. She just kept smiling and ignoring him. I watch her; she went outside the grocery store, she pushed the little buggy.

The kid is now wailing because he's outside. He didn't get the toy at checkout. Evidently, I perceived he probably got a toy or two along the way, using this spiritual technique. So, I didn't know what was going on, but as he got to the car, she took him out. I mean, his arms and legs were kicking. She somehow got him roped into his car seat, and that was the end of the experience for me. But I'm saying, there but by the grace of God. I wonder how I would have handled that. What I think is it she had a special dose of patience. She had a patience that I think was deposited by the Holy Spirit and the ability to move forward and to persevere through something that was embarrassing to her, but you could never see it in her face. So, what I purpose to do as a result of that was to move forward and see if the little things that bother me every day, if I could not note them, but handle them with joy of the Lord and to be able to move forward. That's what God gave me through that experience, and may I not be bothered by anything today the way that I was bothered in that store. I was less patient. In fact, I was getting impatient in the way that she didn't handle it. And again, yet, by the grace of God, I believe she handled it perfectly.

I want to introduce you to a life coach now who has become a friend of Charisma. We love her. We respect her work so much. She's also a pastor; her and her husband, pastor a church in Southern California. They've got it rough that ever tough OC of Southern Cal. Well, I'm happy for her that they're in a good place and pastoring and a life coach. She's going to tell you a story or two about what she's up to now in her life. So, join me in your own quiet welcome of Tammy Hotsenpiller. Tammy, you bring so much to the show. You’ve got so much to talk about. Our listeners are blessed by you. I think what we ought to do to start off for all those that that hurts before is maybe give us a little bit of your personal story.

·         Tune in to Tammy Hotsenpiller’s show on the Charisma Podcast Network

Tammy Hotsenpiller: I would love to do that, but I just want to kind of talk a minute about the story that you just told. It’s a great point. We just talked about how those things in our life that irritate us or embarrass us. Those might be the very tools those might be the very things in our life that God might want to use for someone else. We’re doing something now that I'm loving, and it's actually called Story Club. Story Club was birthed out of my mom's story. I know your listeners can relate to this, because we know we all have a story. We just don't know what to do with it. Many of us don't want to talk about the pain points of our story. As you know, we live in a day social media, and most of us are posting Instagram posts or Facebook posts. There is this perfect little world that we pretend we live in. We go to dinner with the husband and the kids and we smile and we put a selfie. Or, we do a My Story on Instagram, and there is this false world that we're all living in of perfection. But that's not truth, because truth are there are pain points in our story. There is hurt and shame and embarrassment. But do you know that those are the very things that God can use to not only set you free, but others free? I believe in using your story to pay it forward to the next generation, for freedom, for purpose, and really just to set people free. So, Story Club is what I'm passionate about right now. And Story Club is what I'm doing right now. People go on all my social media feeds and here at Influence Church, empowering women and men to tell their story.

Tammy Hotsenpiller Books

·         Collinsville

·         3 Skips and a Jump: Becoming a Woman of Influence

·         Story Club Workbook

·         Curious

·         The Park: Let True Intimacy Begin

Dr. Steve Greene: I want to do this right from the beginning before we perhaps would lose anyone. You have a webinar coming up about this topic. Would you tell us a little bit about that before we get too far away?

Tammy Hotsenpiller: Yes, thank you. Actually, mark your calendars everybody. It is Tuesday April 16, and it will be at 6 p.m. Pacific Standard Time. So, here in Cali 6 p.m.; that’s eight o'clock for you in the central part of the country. But I'm going to be talking to you about going from stuck to unstoppable. We all can relate to feeling stuck. I felt stuck in ministry, I felt stuck in marriage, I felt stuck as a mother. All of us at times and seasons in our life are stuck. It looks as if everybody's moving forward but us. I didn't get the promotion, I didn't get the opportunity. I don't have the resources and the list goes on and on and on. In this master class that I will walk you through, we're going to identify things in our life that have kept us stuck and honestly, it's pretty cool. It's something I've been researching as nurture versus nature. Most of us know those terms. We study that in college and we studied that in high school. Am I am a product of the way I was nurtured, the home environment that I grew up in, or is it nature, is it my DNA, is it Great Grandma coming out in me? They say the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Many of us feel stuck. We are a product of our parents. We don't have anything we can say about it, but that's not true. I want to pinpoint all of the areas in your life that you keep repeating over and over and over again … bad behavior, things that you just feel stuck in. I want to show you how to be set free; not only what you can strategically do, but what the Word of God tells us how we can be set free to write a story of freedom.

 

Shows on Charisma Podcast Network

·         Crowns and Rewards Part 1 (Throne Room Series)

·         Grace and Mercy Part 1 (Throne Room Series)

·         Saints Prayers Part 1 (Throne Room Series)

 

Dr. Steve Greene: As I think about other people, everyone has a story that … many people don't believe they've got stories to tell. Have you run across that, that they just don't think they have anything to share?

Tammy Hotsenpiller Bio

·         Certified Christian Life Coach

·         Founder and President of Women of Influence

·         Co-founder and Senior Pastor of Influence Church in Anaheim, California

Tammy Hotsenpiller: Absolutely. I've been doing this for many years. It’s something I use, it's called a story map. I literally help you through a process to begin to write experiences you've had, experiences as a child experiences, young adult experiences, even into your adult years, and you will begin to see commonality in this life map. Let me give you a kind of a for instance. It's crazy. I am a mother and a grandmother. I'm a life coach, I'm a pastor, I been able to travel around the world. From all appearances, I'm very successful. And yet I struggle with fear. I don't know why I struggle with fear. I didn't come from a home where it was instilled in me, per se. But if I'm home alone at night, I've got lights and TVs on. Maybe my husband is coming home from a meeting late and there's fear in me. Now we know the Bible tells us that fear is a spirit. God has not given us the spirit of fear. But we know that it is an actual spirit that we are really almost struggling with, a demonic spirit I believe. When I began to do my story map, I went back and I realized as a little girl, my grandmother, grandma really struggled with fear. I can remember my grandfather saying on more than one occasion, Lily, why are you so fearful? I can remember her locking doors when I would stay with her as a child. I can remember her turning on the TV. I don't know if that something that was genetically passed on to me or is that spirit of fear something that is in my quote DNA or my genes from a grandmother. But by the same token my birthday is two days before Halloween. My mother used to throw Halloween parties like you wouldn't believe. I mean, the scarier the better. To word, honestly, I used to dread my birthday because I was fearful. I mean she would have all kinds of crazy things. Was that a product of the way I was nurtured or nature? Did fear come on me as an individual, as a little girl because, honestly, I battled fear as a little girl. How do I get set free? All of these components of nurture and nature plus the spiritual side of me understanding that this is a demonic spirit that has captivated my attention, all of that is story. Hopefully, I have just weaved a story for your audience. Somebody might be saying, wow, I struggle with fear. Was that passed down to me? Is it something that happened to me? Can I literally, spiritually be set free. It doesn’t matter if it's fear or jealousy or entitlement or anger, anxiety, which so many people deal with today, what you do in story is you begin to find out what these bents and these triggers are in your life and you create a story out of your experience. So yes, everyone has a story. Everyone has life experiences.

Dr. Steve Greene: So, let's kind of bear down on this little bit, dig a little deeper. What do you think is that first step? What is the one thing everybody should do first? Is that the story map? Is that where it all begins?

Tammy Hotsenpiller: Yes, I would say in my launch with Story Club, just kind of say that, literally through the video series, we help you begin to identify what is your story. We want to take where we've been and what we've done and pay it forward to someone else so they don't struggle where we've struggled. I can sit down and talk to people about my issue with fear and believe me, as a pastor of a large church and all the things I do, when a young girl comes to me and says to me, I can't believe how vulnerable and honest you are, there is a sense of connection that happens with her. So yes, the first step is truth, and then the teaching and coaching I do on how to do a story now and beginning to, I call it the 3 Ds. First you have to discover, then you have to define and then you have to develop. Now all of a sudden there's purpose in my life. There's a reason I call gone through this. I have had people come up to me and say I was addicted to pornography. I was set free. Women would say I had an abortion. I was set free. Hey would say I was an alcoholic, I was set free because he whom the Son sets free, is free indeed. But most of us are hiding from our story. We're lying about our story without being set free. So, your pain points, your embarrassment, is actually the most powerful part of your story.

For the rest of Dr. Greene’s interview with Tammy Hotsenpiller, please click here.

Connect with Tammy Hotsenpiller

·         Tammyhotsenpiller.com

·         On the Charisma Podcast Network

·         On Facebook

·         On Twitter

 

Greenelines Host Information

Dr. Steve Greene is the Publisher and Executive Vice President of Charisma Media. Dr. Greene received his Ph.D. in marketing from Memphis State University. He has worked in television station management and worked directly with over 80 stations throughout the United States. He has worked in marketing capacities with McDonald’s, Jiffy Lube, and Stanley Steemer. He has owned restaurants, a national advertising agency and a syndicated marketing research firm. Dr. Greene has served as the Dean of the College of Business and professor of marketing at Oral Roberts University. He is also the author of Love Leads, which dispels the myths and misconceptions many have come to accept about leadership.

To learn more about Dr. Steve Greene, connect with him on social media!

Facebook: https://facebook.com/drsgreene/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrSteveGreene

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.stevegreene/

Episode Notes

Greenelines with

Dr. Steve Greene

Guest: Tammy Hotsenpiller

The pain you have been through has a purpose. Listen as guest Tammy Hotsenpiller directs you to identify who you are and find out what you do through storytelling. Start with a story map of your experiences, pain, and joys to see the commonalities. Hear how your story is used by God to influence others.

Learn more about Tammy's Story Club at tammyhotsenpiller.com.

Introduction

Dr. Steve Greene: I was at a grocery store this weekend, and I observed something that's worth talking about for a little bit before I introduce a great guest. You're going to be so excited about this show, so don't leave. If you don't like me, hang on, we're going to like my guest. The story I want to tell you is about a little kid that I saw going down the aisle with his mom. He was in the basket, all cute, a two-year-old little boy. I was kinda loving on him and liking him. And then he came to a place where he could reach out and grab this package of light bulbs. They are in a little yellow package. It’s not in the toy aisle or anything, but this little one decided he wanted the light bulbs. So, he reached out, grabbed them and put them into buggy and his sweet mother said now, little son. She may not have said it quite like I'm going to say it, but you need to put the light bulbs back. That's not a toy. Of course, the little boy didn't want to put the light bulbs back. He was not in any shape to put them back. But she took him from him. The mother that she is, she took away his light bulbs and put them back on the shelf. And, of course, he began to be a two-year-old and throw a little fit, get loud, started to cry and fuss and all he could say was toy,  toy! He kept saying it throughout the distance of his ride in the grocery store. He went all the way through the store crying for toy, and toy. Wherever he was, I tried to be as far away as I could get, because he was loud and he was insistent. His mother just kept smiling. I watched her. She was my study more than the little one because I teach a parenting class on Wednesday nights. I was thinking, oh, this is a good story. I'm going to be able to use this one. But I was waiting for her to do something, and she did. She just smiled and didn't say a word to him. She did not interact with him at all. She smiled, put groceries in the basket and eventually got a full little buggy and got up to the checkout counter. She took one thing at a time out of the checkout buggy at the checkout counter, and the little one was like screaming. Everyone around was saying, like, you going do something? We’ll help you. I was again, staying far enough away that I could handle the decibels, but still observing her. She was doing so good. She was smiling. didn't say a word to the little sweet thing. didn't do anything at all to correct. She just kept smiling and ignoring him. I watch her; she went outside the grocery store, she pushed the little buggy.

The kid is now wailing because he's outside. He didn't get the toy at checkout. Evidently, I perceived he probably got a toy or two along the way, using this spiritual technique. So, I didn't know what was going on, but as he got to the car, she took him out. I mean, his arms and legs were kicking. She somehow got him roped into his car seat, and that was the end of the experience for me. But I'm saying, there but by the grace of God. I wonder how I would have handled that. What I think is it she had a special dose of patience. She had a patience that I think was deposited by the Holy Spirit and the ability to move forward and to persevere through something that was embarrassing to her, but you could never see it in her face. So, what I purpose to do as a result of that was to move forward and see if the little things that bother me every day, if I could not note them, but handle them with joy of the Lord and to be able to move forward. That's what God gave me through that experience, and may I not be bothered by anything today the way that I was bothered in that store. I was less patient. In fact, I was getting impatient in the way that she didn't handle it. And again, yet, by the grace of God, I believe she handled it perfectly.

I want to introduce you to a life coach now who has become a friend of Charisma. We love her. We respect her work so much. She's also a pastor; her and her husband, pastor a church in Southern California. They've got it rough that ever tough OC of Southern Cal. Well, I'm happy for her that they're in a good place and pastoring and a life coach. She's going to tell you a story or two about what she's up to now in her life. So, join me in your own quiet welcome of Tammy Hotsenpiller. Tammy, you bring so much to the show. You’ve got so much to talk about. Our listeners are blessed by you. I think what we ought to do to start off for all those that that hurts before is maybe give us a little bit of your personal story.

·         Tune in to Tammy Hotsenpiller’s show on the Charisma Podcast Network

Tammy Hotsenpiller: I would love to do that, but I just want to kind of talk a minute about the story that you just told. It’s a great point. We just talked about how those things in our life that irritate us or embarrass us. Those might be the very tools those might be the very things in our life that God might want to use for someone else. We’re doing something now that I'm loving, and it's actually called Story Club. Story Club was birthed out of my mom's story. I know your listeners can relate to this, because we know we all have a story. We just don't know what to do with it. Many of us don't want to talk about the pain points of our story. As you know, we live in a day social media, and most of us are posting Instagram posts or Facebook posts. There is this perfect little world that we pretend we live in. We go to dinner with the husband and the kids and we smile and we put a selfie. Or, we do a My Story on Instagram, and there is this false world that we're all living in of perfection. But that's not truth, because truth are there are pain points in our story. There is hurt and shame and embarrassment. But do you know that those are the very things that God can use to not only set you free, but others free? I believe in using your story to pay it forward to the next generation, for freedom, for purpose, and really just to set people free. So, Story Club is what I'm passionate about right now. And Story Club is what I'm doing right now. People go on all my social media feeds and here at Influence Church, empowering women and men to tell their story.

Tammy Hotsenpiller Books

·         Collinsville

·         3 Skips and a Jump: Becoming a Woman of Influence

·         Story Club Workbook

·         Curious

·         The Park: Let True Intimacy Begin

Dr. Steve Greene: I want to do this right from the beginning before we perhaps would lose anyone. You have a webinar coming up about this topic. Would you tell us a little bit about that before we get too far away?

Tammy Hotsenpiller: Yes, thank you. Actually, mark your calendars everybody. It is Tuesday April 16, and it will be at 6 p.m. Pacific Standard Time. So, here in Cali 6 p.m.; that’s eight o'clock for you in the central part of the country. But I'm going to be talking to you about going from stuck to unstoppable. We all can relate to feeling stuck. I felt stuck in ministry, I felt stuck in marriage, I felt stuck as a mother. All of us at times and seasons in our life are stuck. It looks as if everybody's moving forward but us. I didn't get the promotion, I didn't get the opportunity. I don't have the resources and the list goes on and on and on. In this master class that I will walk you through, we're going to identify things in our life that have kept us stuck and honestly, it's pretty cool. It's something I've been researching as nurture versus nature. Most of us know those terms. We study that in college and we studied that in high school. Am I am a product of the way I was nurtured, the home environment that I grew up in, or is it nature, is it my DNA, is it Great Grandma coming out in me? They say the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Many of us feel stuck. We are a product of our parents. We don't have anything we can say about it, but that's not true. I want to pinpoint all of the areas in your life that you keep repeating over and over and over again … bad behavior, things that you just feel stuck in. I want to show you how to be set free; not only what you can strategically do, but what the Word of God tells us how we can be set free to write a story of freedom.

 

Shows on Charisma Podcast Network

·         Crowns and Rewards Part 1 (Throne Room Series)

·         Grace and Mercy Part 1 (Throne Room Series)

·         Saints Prayers Part 1 (Throne Room Series)

 

Dr. Steve Greene: As I think about other people, everyone has a story that … many people don't believe they've got stories to tell. Have you run across that, that they just don't think they have anything to share?

Tammy Hotsenpiller Bio

·         Certified Christian Life Coach

·         Founder and President of Women of Influence

·         Co-founder and Senior Pastor of Influence Church in Anaheim, California

Tammy Hotsenpiller: Absolutely. I've been doing this for many years. It’s something I use, it's called a story map. I literally help you through a process to begin to write experiences you've had, experiences as a child experiences, young adult experiences, even into your adult years, and you will begin to see commonality in this life map. Let me give you a kind of a for instance. It's crazy. I am a mother and a grandmother. I'm a life coach, I'm a pastor, I been able to travel around the world. From all appearances, I'm very successful. And yet I struggle with fear. I don't know why I struggle with fear. I didn't come from a home where it was instilled in me, per se. But if I'm home alone at night, I've got lights and TVs on. Maybe my husband is coming home from a meeting late and there's fear in me. Now we know the Bible tells us that fear is a spirit. God has not given us the spirit of fear. But we know that it is an actual spirit that we are really almost struggling with, a demonic spirit I believe. When I began to do my story map, I went back and I realized as a little girl, my grandmother, grandma really struggled with fear. I can remember my grandfather saying on more than one occasion, Lily, why are you so fearful? I can remember her locking doors when I would stay with her as a child. I can remember her turning on the TV. I don't know if that something that was genetically passed on to me or is that spirit of fear something that is in my quote DNA or my genes from a grandmother. But by the same token my birthday is two days before Halloween. My mother used to throw Halloween parties like you wouldn't believe. I mean, the scarier the better. To word, honestly, I used to dread my birthday because I was fearful. I mean she would have all kinds of crazy things. Was that a product of the way I was nurtured or nature? Did fear come on me as an individual, as a little girl because, honestly, I battled fear as a little girl. How do I get set free? All of these components of nurture and nature plus the spiritual side of me understanding that this is a demonic spirit that has captivated my attention, all of that is story. Hopefully, I have just weaved a story for your audience. Somebody might be saying, wow, I struggle with fear. Was that passed down to me? Is it something that happened to me? Can I literally, spiritually be set free. It doesn’t matter if it's fear or jealousy or entitlement or anger, anxiety, which so many people deal with today, what you do in story is you begin to find out what these bents and these triggers are in your life and you create a story out of your experience. So yes, everyone has a story. Everyone has life experiences.

Dr. Steve Greene: So, let's kind of bear down on this little bit, dig a little deeper. What do you think is that first step? What is the one thing everybody should do first? Is that the story map? Is that where it all begins?

Tammy Hotsenpiller: Yes, I would say in my launch with Story Club, just kind of say that, literally through the video series, we help you begin to identify what is your story. We want to take where we've been and what we've done and pay it forward to someone else so they don't struggle where we've struggled. I can sit down and talk to people about my issue with fear and believe me, as a pastor of a large church and all the things I do, when a young girl comes to me and says to me, I can't believe how vulnerable and honest you are, there is a sense of connection that happens with her. So yes, the first step is truth, and then the teaching and coaching I do on how to do a story now and beginning to, I call it the 3 Ds. First you have to discover, then you have to define and then you have to develop. Now all of a sudden there's purpose in my life. There's a reason I call gone through this. I have had people come up to me and say I was addicted to pornography. I was set free. Women would say I had an abortion. I was set free. Hey would say I was an alcoholic, I was set free because he whom the Son sets free, is free indeed. But most of us are hiding from our story. We're lying about our story without being set free. So, your pain points, your embarrassment, is actually the most powerful part of your story.

For the rest of Dr. Greene’s interview with Tammy Hotsenpiller, please click here.

Connect with Tammy Hotsenpiller

·         Tammyhotsenpiller.com

·         On the Charisma Podcast Network

·         On Facebook

·         On Twitter

 

Greenelines Host Information

Dr. Steve Greene is the Publisher and Executive Vice President of Charisma Media. Dr. Greene received his Ph.D. in marketing from Memphis State University. He has worked in television station management and worked directly with over 80 stations throughout the United States. He has worked in marketing capacities with McDonald’s, Jiffy Lube, and Stanley Steemer. He has owned restaurants, a national advertising agency and a syndicated marketing research firm. Dr. Greene has served as the Dean of the College of Business and professor of marketing at Oral Roberts University. He is also the author of Love Leads, which dispels the myths and misconceptions many have come to accept about leadership.

To learn more about Dr. Steve Greene, connect with him on social media!

Facebook: https://facebook.com/drsgreene/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrSteveGreene

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.stevegreene/

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