Guide, Guard and Grace with Carol Burton McLeod (Season 5, Ep. 29)

Guide, Guard and Grace with Carol Burton McLeod (Season 5, Ep. 29)

How hard it is to guide your mind, guard your heart and grace your tongue?

Speaker and author Carol Burton McLeod reflects on her personal difficulties with each one as she joins host Dr. Steve Greene to share with you the recipe to joyfully take control over your thoughts, feelings, and to steer your words. When you do, you will have cleansed your soul. Listen now as Carol challenges you and talks more about her new book, "Guide Your Mind, Guard Your Hear, Grace Your Tongue."

42 Minutes • 5 months ago

Episode Notes

Greenelines with

Dr. Steve Greene

Host: Carol McLeod

 

Every one of us have spoken words that we wish somehow we had the power to take back, especially hurtful words we have spoken to those we love the most and know the best.

In her new book, Guide Your Mind, Guard Your Heart and Grace Your Tongue, Carol McLeod reminds us that before these words are spoken, they are formed in our hearts and minds, and that it’s our thoughts and emotions that determine what come out of our mouths. In other words, we can take control of our thoughts and feelings so that we can tame our tongue.

Carol discusses her book with Dr. Steve Greene on the latest edition of Greenelines.

Introduction

Have you ever said this to yourself: “I can’t do anything right?” Or, “it doesn’t matter what I do it turns out wrong?” Or, “no one cares about me?” Are you conscious of your inner voice, the voice that speaks to you throughout the day about who you are and about how things are going to work out for you today? Thankfully, self-talk is just one opinion, and most of you listening today know that the opinion that matters is the voice of God. But here’s one thing I’ve noticed in my years of pastoring and helping other people. Are you ready for it? People who have bad self-talk probably speak poorly about others. We transfer negative feelings about ourselves onto others. It seems almost trite to say this: Hurting people hurt people. But it may help us understand why some folks just can’t stop that river of words of death that flow from their mouths. They hear themselves talking poorly; they just can’t stop it. We know the Bible says that out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks, and what a convicting scripture that is. So, if I hear bad things flow from my mouth, I must realize that it was birthed in my heart. We are going to talk with an author today that may say that a bit differently. But this is at once troubling and cautionary, at least to me. It would sure help our prayer life to know that I need God’s help with my heart long before I focus on my tongue.

My guest today has written a book that is so helpful in gaining better language skills. The book is titled, Guide Your Mind, Guard Your Heart and Grace Your Tongue. Wow, what a title that is. That's a great recipe in that title. The author is Carol Burton McLeod and she's here with me in the studio today. I've known Carol since my days at Oral Roberts University. I've watched her help many people with her gift of influence. She's a popular speaker at women's conferences. She's got a radio show. She's a columnist for Charisma Leader. She's also a prolific writer and a Christian content machine. You can also find your podcast, “A Jolt of Joy,” on the Charisma Podcast Network. So, I'm really blessed, and I mean that in every sense of the word, to introduce my guest, Carol McLeod. It’s rare that we have such influential women authors. Women tend to write and hide out. I'm not saying all women, but too many authors are not visible, getting on the platforms as you do. I'm really proud of you for getting out and carrying this word to the marketplace.

 

Carol McLeod on Charisma

·         Holy Spirit’s Antidote for Your Spiritual Exhaustion

·         Live This Entire Year Free of Stress by Keeping These Biblical Principles

·         Try This Faith-Filling Exercise So You Can Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions

 

Carol McLeod: I always say some people sing, some people draw, some people build buildings. I communicate. It's the gift that God has put in me. Whether it's writing a blog, writing an article for you, having a podcast, being part of the publishing industry, I'm going to do it. As you know, four and a half years ago, I was in a battle for my life. I was battling cancer and the scripture that touched me deeply during that time is from Acts 13. This is what it says, “And David” … OK, stop right there. Are you kidding? The Holy Spirit is still talking about David almost 1,000 years after he left. I'm going to listen. David served the purposes of God in his own generation, then he went to sleep. So, I believe that we all have purposes that are specific to our own generation. If I had been born before the Reformation, I would have been one of those scribes writing out the Word of God on parchment. If I'd been born during the 1800s, I would have had you buy me the fastest horse we could find, and I would have taken the gospel across the Rocky Mountains. But that's not when I was born. I'm going to serve the purposes today. And that includes podcasts, blogs, TV, radio, the publishing industry, social media … anything that we can use.

Dr. Steve Greene: But I've seen you one on one with young women and men at ORU. Obviously, that is your gift to students, young people growing at that age and their 20s. I've seen you do that. And, you're powerful one on one. You have words of life.

Carol McLeod: I appreciate that. Several years ago, I was speaking to some women leaders, ministry leaders in Ohio and I was speaking on the woman with the issue of blood. How many times have I taught on that girl? The Bible tells us she bled for 12 years. She'd only grown worse, not better. She'd spent everything she had at the hand of many physicians. But the backstory there is that Jesus was on his way to heal Jairos’ daughter when this woman reached out to touch him. And as I was teaching about the woman, I was saying, What are you your issues what has caused you to hemorrhage for your entire life? I got to Jairos’ daughter and I saw something I had never seen before. It was that the little girl was 12 years old. What? The woman had bled for 12 years, and the little girl was 12 years old. The Holy Spirit spoke to me in that moment and said Carol, you've spent your whole life dealing with women and their issues. But don't forget there's a generation that's going to die unless you get Jesus to them. In that moment, I sort of shifted and tried to become younger and more relevant to the generation to come because it's our responsibility to get Jesus to them.

 

Some of Carol’s Books

·         Guide Your Mind, Guard Your Heart, Grace Your Tongue

·         Defiant Joy!

·         Pass the Joy, Please!

·         Joy For All Seasons

·         Let There be Joy Christmas Devotional

 

Dr. Steve Greene: This book, why did you write it? It's so good. Let me read the name of the book again: Guide Your Mind, Guard Your Heart, Grace Your Tongue. It's a recipe book.

Carol McLeod: It is. I always try to write to a felt need. I am a great observer of people. And so, I watch people's lives and I listen for the voice of the Holy Spirit to create the next book. Honestly, social media is one of the main things that made me want to write this book. Because people think they can vomit on social media. They, they use social media to verbally vomit. They think that they have this platform, this bully pulpit, that they can say anything they think, feel and believe. And that is not in the Bible. It's not there. And so, what I realized that there have been other books written about your mind, your emotions, or your tongue. But I didn't know a book that grouped the three together because your tongue is really not your problem. Your pen is not your problem. Your keyboard is not your problem. The challenge is cleaning up your mind, the thoughts that you think that you allow to stay in your brain and the emotions that you allow to simmer in your soul. That's where you've got to go. And if you can clean up those two areas, your tongue will be great.

·         Proverbs 23:7: “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he. ‘Eat and drink!’ he says to you, but his heart is not with you” (MEV).

 

Dr. Steve Greene: That's good. You open with this thought of guide your mind. That seems so hard to me. How do I guide my mind?

 

Carol McLeod: We have no hope of guiding our mind without the power of the Word of God. You know, we have to open our Bibles and read the Word. If you were cleaning your kitchen counter, you couldn't do it with yesterday's rag. You have to use something to clean it with. Get out a new rank every evening and us a little bit of squirt stuff. Proverbs 23:7 is the anchor verse for guiding your mind. “As a man or woman thinks within themselves, so is he. This is not new-age. humanism This is Bible. The Bible says that the thoughts we think today create the life we live tomorrow. So, if you think bitter, angry, critical thoughts, that's the life you'll have tomorrow. You will be an angry parent, you'll be an angry spouse. You won't be a joy to be with. And, it starts in your mind. But your question was, how do we guide it? How do we clean it up? And I think it's the Word of God. I think it's getting into the Word and allowing the Word to do a work because the Word doesn't return void. But it accomplishes the purpose for which it was set forth. And so many women say to me, Carol, when you teach the Bible, I get it. But when I read it, I don't understand it. I always say that's OK. Read it anyway, because we don't primarily read the Bible for information. We read it for transformation, and the Word of God will transform it, will rewire the way you think.

 

Dr. Steve Greene: Read what you do understand. Find a section of scripture that speaks to you possibly if you're in a place where you having trouble with it. Maybe the Spirit of God is leading you somewhere else. When you need it, it'll become clear, particularly if you pray that before you open the Word. “Lord, open your Word up to me today. Let me understand what you have for me.” If you don't, maybe you’re in the wrong place. Flip a couple of chapters over or read something that you know that you're comfortable with. Read something in the New Testament that speaks to you and stay there for a while.

 

Carol McLeod: Yeah, exactly. I always tell people, go to Psalms, you'll relate to David. Go to Matthew, Mark, Luke and John and just learn about Jesus. But I do think that the devil realizes it is spiritual warfare. The devil wants to keep believers out of the Word of God. So, he'll try to discourage you any way he can. And one of the ways he does this is by saying, well, you don't understand it anyway. I'm going to read it anyway.

 

Dr. Steve Greene: So, you offer this recipe for language success, that’s what I call it. And, you use the words guide, guard and grace; three G's, three good G’s, and of course God is in all those. Guide, guard and grace. Does the mind influence the heart or is it the other way around?

 

Carol McLeod: It's both. They echo back and forth together consistently, perpetually. They don't stop communicating with one another. One thing I learned in my research for the book is that an emotion travels 80,000 times faster than a thought. Think about that for a minute. That's why when you're in an intense situation … that's why when the neighbor's house is on fire, and you can't remember where your kids are, you don't know what to do. That’s why when your wife is in labor and she's screaming in pain, you can't remember your mom's phone number. It's because your emotions are traveling faster than your thoughts. So first, we work on our brains to clean up the sludge that's been there for many years. Because your thoughts have to be able to say to your emotions, stop it, get back in line, come back to a reasonable place. We have to live a life on principle, not on emotion. So that's why I think it starts in your brain. But you got to work on your emotions too.

 

For the rest of the interview with Carol McLeod, visit cpnshows.com.

 

Connect with Carol

·         Carol McLeod Ministries

·         On Facebook

·         On Twitter

·         Sign Up for Her Weekly Blog

 

Greenelines Host Information

Dr. Steve Greene is the Publisher and Executive Vice President of Charisma Media. Dr. Greene received his Ph.D. in marketing from Memphis State University. He has worked in television station management and worked directly with over 80 stations throughout the United States. He has worked in marketing capacities with McDonald’s, Jiffy Lube, and Stanley Steemer. He has owned restaurants, a national advertising agency and a syndicated marketing research firm. Dr. Greene has served as the Dean of the College of Business and professor of marketing at Oral Roberts University. He is also the author of Love Leads, which dispels the myths and misconceptions many have come to accept about leadership.

To learn more about Dr. Steve Greene, connect with him on social media!

Facebook: https://facebook.com/drsgreene/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrSteveGreene

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.stevegreene/

 

email: greenelines@charismamedia.com

Episode Notes

Greenelines with

Dr. Steve Greene

Host: Carol McLeod

 

Every one of us have spoken words that we wish somehow we had the power to take back, especially hurtful words we have spoken to those we love the most and know the best.

In her new book, Guide Your Mind, Guard Your Heart and Grace Your Tongue, Carol McLeod reminds us that before these words are spoken, they are formed in our hearts and minds, and that it’s our thoughts and emotions that determine what come out of our mouths. In other words, we can take control of our thoughts and feelings so that we can tame our tongue.

Carol discusses her book with Dr. Steve Greene on the latest edition of Greenelines.

Introduction

Have you ever said this to yourself: “I can’t do anything right?” Or, “it doesn’t matter what I do it turns out wrong?” Or, “no one cares about me?” Are you conscious of your inner voice, the voice that speaks to you throughout the day about who you are and about how things are going to work out for you today? Thankfully, self-talk is just one opinion, and most of you listening today know that the opinion that matters is the voice of God. But here’s one thing I’ve noticed in my years of pastoring and helping other people. Are you ready for it? People who have bad self-talk probably speak poorly about others. We transfer negative feelings about ourselves onto others. It seems almost trite to say this: Hurting people hurt people. But it may help us understand why some folks just can’t stop that river of words of death that flow from their mouths. They hear themselves talking poorly; they just can’t stop it. We know the Bible says that out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks, and what a convicting scripture that is. So, if I hear bad things flow from my mouth, I must realize that it was birthed in my heart. We are going to talk with an author today that may say that a bit differently. But this is at once troubling and cautionary, at least to me. It would sure help our prayer life to know that I need God’s help with my heart long before I focus on my tongue.

My guest today has written a book that is so helpful in gaining better language skills. The book is titled, Guide Your Mind, Guard Your Heart and Grace Your Tongue. Wow, what a title that is. That's a great recipe in that title. The author is Carol Burton McLeod and she's here with me in the studio today. I've known Carol since my days at Oral Roberts University. I've watched her help many people with her gift of influence. She's a popular speaker at women's conferences. She's got a radio show. She's a columnist for Charisma Leader. She's also a prolific writer and a Christian content machine. You can also find your podcast, “A Jolt of Joy,” on the Charisma Podcast Network. So, I'm really blessed, and I mean that in every sense of the word, to introduce my guest, Carol McLeod. It’s rare that we have such influential women authors. Women tend to write and hide out. I'm not saying all women, but too many authors are not visible, getting on the platforms as you do. I'm really proud of you for getting out and carrying this word to the marketplace.

 

Carol McLeod on Charisma

·         Holy Spirit’s Antidote for Your Spiritual Exhaustion

·         Live This Entire Year Free of Stress by Keeping These Biblical Principles

·         Try This Faith-Filling Exercise So You Can Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions

 

Carol McLeod: I always say some people sing, some people draw, some people build buildings. I communicate. It's the gift that God has put in me. Whether it's writing a blog, writing an article for you, having a podcast, being part of the publishing industry, I'm going to do it. As you know, four and a half years ago, I was in a battle for my life. I was battling cancer and the scripture that touched me deeply during that time is from Acts 13. This is what it says, “And David” … OK, stop right there. Are you kidding? The Holy Spirit is still talking about David almost 1,000 years after he left. I'm going to listen. David served the purposes of God in his own generation, then he went to sleep. So, I believe that we all have purposes that are specific to our own generation. If I had been born before the Reformation, I would have been one of those scribes writing out the Word of God on parchment. If I'd been born during the 1800s, I would have had you buy me the fastest horse we could find, and I would have taken the gospel across the Rocky Mountains. But that's not when I was born. I'm going to serve the purposes today. And that includes podcasts, blogs, TV, radio, the publishing industry, social media … anything that we can use.

Dr. Steve Greene: But I've seen you one on one with young women and men at ORU. Obviously, that is your gift to students, young people growing at that age and their 20s. I've seen you do that. And, you're powerful one on one. You have words of life.

Carol McLeod: I appreciate that. Several years ago, I was speaking to some women leaders, ministry leaders in Ohio and I was speaking on the woman with the issue of blood. How many times have I taught on that girl? The Bible tells us she bled for 12 years. She'd only grown worse, not better. She'd spent everything she had at the hand of many physicians. But the backstory there is that Jesus was on his way to heal Jairos’ daughter when this woman reached out to touch him. And as I was teaching about the woman, I was saying, What are you your issues what has caused you to hemorrhage for your entire life? I got to Jairos’ daughter and I saw something I had never seen before. It was that the little girl was 12 years old. What? The woman had bled for 12 years, and the little girl was 12 years old. The Holy Spirit spoke to me in that moment and said Carol, you've spent your whole life dealing with women and their issues. But don't forget there's a generation that's going to die unless you get Jesus to them. In that moment, I sort of shifted and tried to become younger and more relevant to the generation to come because it's our responsibility to get Jesus to them.

 

Some of Carol’s Books

·         Guide Your Mind, Guard Your Heart, Grace Your Tongue

·         Defiant Joy!

·         Pass the Joy, Please!

·         Joy For All Seasons

·         Let There be Joy Christmas Devotional

 

Dr. Steve Greene: This book, why did you write it? It's so good. Let me read the name of the book again: Guide Your Mind, Guard Your Heart, Grace Your Tongue. It's a recipe book.

Carol McLeod: It is. I always try to write to a felt need. I am a great observer of people. And so, I watch people's lives and I listen for the voice of the Holy Spirit to create the next book. Honestly, social media is one of the main things that made me want to write this book. Because people think they can vomit on social media. They, they use social media to verbally vomit. They think that they have this platform, this bully pulpit, that they can say anything they think, feel and believe. And that is not in the Bible. It's not there. And so, what I realized that there have been other books written about your mind, your emotions, or your tongue. But I didn't know a book that grouped the three together because your tongue is really not your problem. Your pen is not your problem. Your keyboard is not your problem. The challenge is cleaning up your mind, the thoughts that you think that you allow to stay in your brain and the emotions that you allow to simmer in your soul. That's where you've got to go. And if you can clean up those two areas, your tongue will be great.

·         Proverbs 23:7: “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he. ‘Eat and drink!’ he says to you, but his heart is not with you” (MEV).

 

Dr. Steve Greene: That's good. You open with this thought of guide your mind. That seems so hard to me. How do I guide my mind?

 

Carol McLeod: We have no hope of guiding our mind without the power of the Word of God. You know, we have to open our Bibles and read the Word. If you were cleaning your kitchen counter, you couldn't do it with yesterday's rag. You have to use something to clean it with. Get out a new rank every evening and us a little bit of squirt stuff. Proverbs 23:7 is the anchor verse for guiding your mind. “As a man or woman thinks within themselves, so is he. This is not new-age. humanism This is Bible. The Bible says that the thoughts we think today create the life we live tomorrow. So, if you think bitter, angry, critical thoughts, that's the life you'll have tomorrow. You will be an angry parent, you'll be an angry spouse. You won't be a joy to be with. And, it starts in your mind. But your question was, how do we guide it? How do we clean it up? And I think it's the Word of God. I think it's getting into the Word and allowing the Word to do a work because the Word doesn't return void. But it accomplishes the purpose for which it was set forth. And so many women say to me, Carol, when you teach the Bible, I get it. But when I read it, I don't understand it. I always say that's OK. Read it anyway, because we don't primarily read the Bible for information. We read it for transformation, and the Word of God will transform it, will rewire the way you think.

 

Dr. Steve Greene: Read what you do understand. Find a section of scripture that speaks to you possibly if you're in a place where you having trouble with it. Maybe the Spirit of God is leading you somewhere else. When you need it, it'll become clear, particularly if you pray that before you open the Word. “Lord, open your Word up to me today. Let me understand what you have for me.” If you don't, maybe you’re in the wrong place. Flip a couple of chapters over or read something that you know that you're comfortable with. Read something in the New Testament that speaks to you and stay there for a while.

 

Carol McLeod: Yeah, exactly. I always tell people, go to Psalms, you'll relate to David. Go to Matthew, Mark, Luke and John and just learn about Jesus. But I do think that the devil realizes it is spiritual warfare. The devil wants to keep believers out of the Word of God. So, he'll try to discourage you any way he can. And one of the ways he does this is by saying, well, you don't understand it anyway. I'm going to read it anyway.

 

Dr. Steve Greene: So, you offer this recipe for language success, that’s what I call it. And, you use the words guide, guard and grace; three G's, three good G’s, and of course God is in all those. Guide, guard and grace. Does the mind influence the heart or is it the other way around?

 

Carol McLeod: It's both. They echo back and forth together consistently, perpetually. They don't stop communicating with one another. One thing I learned in my research for the book is that an emotion travels 80,000 times faster than a thought. Think about that for a minute. That's why when you're in an intense situation … that's why when the neighbor's house is on fire, and you can't remember where your kids are, you don't know what to do. That’s why when your wife is in labor and she's screaming in pain, you can't remember your mom's phone number. It's because your emotions are traveling faster than your thoughts. So first, we work on our brains to clean up the sludge that's been there for many years. Because your thoughts have to be able to say to your emotions, stop it, get back in line, come back to a reasonable place. We have to live a life on principle, not on emotion. So that's why I think it starts in your brain. But you got to work on your emotions too.

 

For the rest of the interview with Carol McLeod, visit cpnshows.com.

 

Connect with Carol

·         Carol McLeod Ministries

·         On Facebook

·         On Twitter

·         Sign Up for Her Weekly Blog

 

Greenelines Host Information

Dr. Steve Greene is the Publisher and Executive Vice President of Charisma Media. Dr. Greene received his Ph.D. in marketing from Memphis State University. He has worked in television station management and worked directly with over 80 stations throughout the United States. He has worked in marketing capacities with McDonald’s, Jiffy Lube, and Stanley Steemer. He has owned restaurants, a national advertising agency and a syndicated marketing research firm. Dr. Greene has served as the Dean of the College of Business and professor of marketing at Oral Roberts University. He is also the author of Love Leads, which dispels the myths and misconceptions many have come to accept about leadership.

To learn more about Dr. Steve Greene, connect with him on social media!

Facebook: https://facebook.com/drsgreene/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrSteveGreene

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.stevegreene/

 

email: greenelines@charismamedia.com

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Guide, Guard and Grace with Carol Burton McLeod (Season 5, Ep. 29)