Creative Ways to Pray for Your Prodigal, episode 59

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If you love a prodigal, you can discover help and hope

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for your wilderness journey right here

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at When You Love a Prodigal.

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And also help and hope for your own life journey.

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Recently on the Prayer for Prodigals community website,

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a mom said, please pray for my son.

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I've done all I know to do.

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I've tried to pray.

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I just don't know how to pray for him anymore.

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On this podcast over the past year and a half,

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we have talked about many ways to help our prodigals

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and many ways to help ourselves walk through this journey.

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And all of those are legit and helpful.

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But the bottom line is God is the one who knows

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what they need and what we need, and he can do it.

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Prayer is our means to connect with God.

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I promised I would occasionally focus on answering

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some of the questions that I've received.

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And in my first question and answer session,

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I talked about 10 lessons I had learned

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on my wilderness journey.

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And today we will talk about prayer.

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Be sure to write down the ideas that stick with you

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that really sound right to you, that will help you the most.

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At the end, I will tell you how you can get a free gift

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to give you more help.

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First, if you are like me,

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you find prayer a little perplexing.

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And what I wanna talk about now

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is that prayer is a conversation.

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Just like you have a conversation with a friend

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or your loved one or anybody that you encounter.

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And that's exactly what prayer is,

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a conversation with God.

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When I first met Jesus, all I knew about prayer

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was reciting from a prayer book.

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But someone gave me a life-changing book

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called Prayer Conversing with God.

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From the beginning of my journey with Jesus,

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I began to understand that prayer was not a list of wants,

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but a conversation with God.

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It was two-way, give and take, question and answer,

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honesty and respect.

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Ask and tell and listen.

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We can ask and God listens to us.

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One of my most helpful comments to God though is,

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what do you want to say to me?

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So keep in mind as I go over all these other

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possible prayer approaches,

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that bottom line, you're having a conversation with God

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and you will talk and he will talk.

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It goes both ways.

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Now, because when you have a prodigal,

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you're often in a sad, sorrowing, angry response.

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And we come to God more in lament than anything else.

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Now in the Western part of this world,

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we don't do much about lament,

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though I think we're getting it a little better.

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In other parts of the world, they understand it.

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But lament is a time where we bring to God

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what we are sad about, hurt, angry about.

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And we're honest with them and that's lament.

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When we lament, we take our tears and our fears to God.

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We let him know what we think and how we feel

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about the events of our lives.

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And we appeal to God to act justly

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and demonstrate his faithfulness.

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Many of the Psalms are songs of lament,

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most of which follow a similar pattern or approach to God.

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The first thing is a complaint.

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Probably all of us can identify with first

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going to God with a complaint.

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And then a request, which we tend to do as well.

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And then there is the expression of trust.

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Even though we may not have yet seen what God's going to do,

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we come and we complain, we tell how bad things are,

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we make a request that he would do something.

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But then we say, I'm gonna trust you, Lord.

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And that's what's throughout the Psalms,

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David especially, but others as well did just that.

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And there are many Psalms of lament

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and a whole book of lamentations that is lament.

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The concerns that we bring to him could be personal needs

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or threats for the Psalms, it was threats from enemies.

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Or for us, it might be threats from somebody

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who is angry at us like, oh, our prodigal.

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Or disappointments with God's action or inaction,

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or the choices our loved ones are making.

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In Psalm 80, we might find ourselves joining the Psalmist

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in his despair at the brokenness of Jerusalem,

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crying out, how long, Lord God Almighty.

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And then restore us, oh God, make your face shine on us

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that we may be saved.

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And I know, unless you're brand new

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in this wilderness journey, you've said, how long, God?

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How long?

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And that is an honest expression of lament

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of the pain that you're experiencing.

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And it expresses our desire, our efforts,

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to give that pain to God, to let him take it

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and carry the weight of it.

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So if you find yourself lamenting the situation for you

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or with your loved one, don't think that's wrong.

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It's very biblical because it's all throughout scripture.

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Another way to pray is to use scripture.

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Sometimes I just don't know what to pray

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or what my loved one really needs or even what I need.

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And what is God's will in this journey that I'm on?

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And when I don't know what to pray,

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I turn to the word of God.

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There are prayers throughout it,

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and many of those prayers will apply to where we are.

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And they can be prayed directly from scripture.

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And I'm gonna give you a couple of examples.

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Other verses tell us of God's desires

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and intentions for his children.

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So I turn those scriptures into prayers.

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So let me just share with you a few here

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or some words from God's word to guide your prayers.

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First, some assurances for you.

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In Philippians 4, we read,

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do not be anxious about anything,

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but in everything by prayer and petition,

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with thanksgiving, present your request to God.

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And what happens?

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The peace of God, which transcends all understanding,

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will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

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So you can claim for yourself especially

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on this journey that if I come to him with my requests

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and my anxiety and whatever, and share it with him,

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he says, I'll give you peace.

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He doesn't say I'll give you exactly what you asked for,

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but he will give us peace.

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And in Hebrews 4, we read,

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therefore, let us draw near with confidence

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to the throne of grace,

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so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help

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in time of need.

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Does that just blow your mind?

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Come with confidence to God,

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just like you would do for the Queen of England

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or somebody of high position.

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He says, come on up, I wanna talk with you, I wanna hear.

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And do you get what it says, the throne of grace?

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I wonder if that means the throne of grace

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or the throne that God sits on is made of grace.

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What a beautiful thought, how he responds to me.

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And when we come, we will receive mercy and grace

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to help in our time of need.

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Then there's prayers for your loved one.

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And this is a word straight from God through Jeremiah.

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My eyes will watch over them for their good,

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and I will bring them back to this land.

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I will build them up and not tear them down.

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I will plant them and not uproot them.

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I will give them a heart to know me that I am the Lord.

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They will be my people and I will be their God,

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for they will return to me with all their heart.

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Now, I know that Jeremiah was talking about

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the children of Israel coming back from captivity,

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but over and over, I have heard God say, this is true.

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He's wooing the loved ones back, the prodigals,

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and we can come and trust him for that.

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And Jeremiah also quotes God as saying,

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I am the Lord, the God of all mankind,

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is anything too hard for me?

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You know, sometimes the case looks impossible.

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We have no idea where our loved one is

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or what they're doing or what trouble they're in.

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They won't talk to us or they're in jail

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or all sorts of things.

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And this says to me, I choose to believe

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that God is working and can do the impossible.

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Oh yeah, and here's another wonderful prayer

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to pray for your loved ones.

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This is Paul in Ephesians 1.

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I have not stopped giving thanks for you,

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remembering you in my prayers.

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Have you stopped giving thanks for your loved one?

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I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ,

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the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom

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and revelation so that you may know him better.

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What a wonderful thing to pray for our loved ones.

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Going on, Paul says, I pray that the eyes of your heart

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may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope

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to which he, God, has called you.

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The riches of his glorious inheritance in you and me,

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in the holy people, in the children of God,

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a rich inheritance were called

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and his incomparably great power for us who believe.

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A lot of times, prodigals don't feel like

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they're very valued.

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That may be because they haven't been,

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but more often it's just a perception

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that comes a lot of times with growing up,

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and they think they're not wanted or valued or of value.

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And God says, oh no, you are of great value.

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You are a glorious inheritance through Christ to the Father.

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There are lots and lots of other scripture,

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and I'm giving you a book at the end

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if you choose to get it,

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that'll give you more, a lot more scriptures to pray.

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Sometimes we need prayers of forgiveness.

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Our Father in heaven is committed to forgiving us

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and to our forgiving those who hurt or offend us.

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Jesus made this clear.

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He said, if someone sends against you seven times in a day,

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and seven times comes back to you and says, forgive me,

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then that's what you should do.

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Jesus said from the cross, Father, forgive them.

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They do not know what they are doing.

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They didn't repent or ask for forgiveness.

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They were cheering and shouting at him.

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No, he says, forgive them.

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I forgave them, and you can forgive those who have hurt you.

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And surely your prodigal will hurt you,

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maybe even harm you.

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Sometimes they ask for forgiveness,

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but more often they don't.

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Jesus says we are to forgive them.

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Here is a prayer to help you do that.

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You can even pray along with me.

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I will read it slowly.

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Father, thank you for your mercy and grace toward me

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and for forgiving my sins through Jesus' death on the cross.

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Thank you that you forgive me over and over.

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For repeated sins and new sins, big or small,

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I am so grateful for your grace.

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Lord, I need to forgive, say the name of your loved one.

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I need to forgive him, her, my loved one who has wronged me,

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hurt me, betrayed me, offended me, sinned against me.

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It's hard for me to do this.

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I am still hurt, angry, confused.

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So I come asking you for the power to forgive, say the name.

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Fill me with your spirit and remind me of your love

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and mercy to me and to, say the name.

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By your spirit, I choose to forgive, again, say the name.

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I choose to extend grace and mercy to him or her,

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even as you have done for me.

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I choose as you enable me to live at peace

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with this person that I love.

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I ask that you bless, one more time, say the name,

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in your love.

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Please, may we be reconciled and our relationship healed

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and if that does not happen,

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may I continue to love and forgive.

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Thank you that this is possible

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in the power of your spirit, in Jesus' name.

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True confession, I've had to pray that prayer many times.

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Yeah, quite a few times.

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And sometimes I hurt my loved one, my prodigal.

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And sometimes you will hurt or offend your prodigal

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and you will need to ask for forgiveness.

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Now here's a very simple prayer to ask your loved one

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to forgive you for how you've hurt them.

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Say his name, her name.

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I was wrong to name the offense.

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Don't just say I'm sorry that I hurt you.

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No, name, what did you say?

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What did you do?

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What did you not do?

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I was wrong to, I know that was hurtful to you.

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Our relationship matters to me

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and I desire to relate to you in a better way.

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Will you forgive me?

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Thank you so much.

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So another kind of prayer has to do with the fact

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that we are in a battle.

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When you are on a wilderness journey with a prodigal

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or any other challenging event,

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you know that life is really a battlefield

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because after all, we have an enemy,

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the devil himself who is seeking to destroy us.

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Our natural tendency is to cringe in fear

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or to run and hide.

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God's word though tells us to do just the opposite.

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Submit yourselves then to God, James says.

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Resist the devil and he will flee from you.

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Seriously, resist the devil?

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Who am I to resist the devil?

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Well, you're a child of God, that's who you are.

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And there are specific ways that we can help you

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that we can resist the devil.

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How do we stand up against the lion seeking to devour us

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and those we love?

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Here are three things I would say.

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They're not the only things,

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but these are three really strong ways

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for us to send the devil.

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What does it say?

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He will flee from you.

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Send the devil fleeing.

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First, praise God.

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David tells us in Psalm 22, three,

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but Lord, you are holy, enthroned in the praises of Israel.

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It's like God is lifted up on the throne when we praise.

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He lives, it says in another translation.

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He lives in our praises.

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And when the devil hears us praising God, he leaves.

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He doesn't wanna be around it.

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He covers his ears, says, let me out of here.

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So how do you go about praising God?

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Here are a few ways.

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List his names, attributes, and qualities.

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Here, for example, he is good, faithful, loving, merciful.

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He is God Almighty, Jehovah Jireh, our shepherd.

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You can also read aloud from the Psalms

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that especially praise our Lord, such as Psalms 95 to 100.

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You can sing the doxology if you know it.

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You can sing praise choruses that you've heard in church

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and maybe memorized.

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There are so many ways to send praises, honor, glory

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up to our God.

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And the devil wants nothing to do with it.

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And that will cause him to let you alone.

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He may come back later, but send him fleeing.

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A second way to send the devil fleeing

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is to thank God.

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It says in 1 Thessalonians 5,

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give thanks in all circumstances,

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for this is God's will for you and Christ Jesus.

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You see, when we thank God, even in difficult situations,

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we announce to the devil that we believe God is God

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and God is good.

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And he doesn't wanna fight that.

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And he leaves us, he flees.

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Did you know you could just send the devil away like that?

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Here's a third way.

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Speak truth.

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John 8 tells us, then you will know the truth

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and the truth will set you free.

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So quote some scriptures that speak the truth of our God,

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such as being confident of this, Paul says in Philippians,

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be assured that he who began a good work in you

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and your prodigal will carry it on to completion

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until the day of Christ Jesus.

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So Satan's trying to convince you that God's mad at you

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or he's through with you,

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or that he's never gonna let go of your prodigal.

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And he says, oh, I started a work in you,

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I started a work in your prodigal.

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You can be confident that I will not abandon it.

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I will complete it.

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And Satan's gone again.

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Another verse in Deuteronomy,

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the Lord is the one who goes ahead of you.

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He will be with you.

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He will not fail you or forsake you.

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Do not fear or be dismayed.

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Now just think, God's saying, I'm with you.

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I'm there all the time with you.

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And Satan's like, I don't wanna hang out with him.

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And so he leaves because we're with God

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and that's not where he wants to be.

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I love just going over this again.

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I hope it's blessing you and speaking of blessings,

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one of my favorite ways to pray is to bless people.

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Now really, what is a blessing?

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Just an old fashioned term, oh no.

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Blessing is the projection of good

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into the life of another.

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So when I say to somebody, God bless you,

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I'm asking God to do good to them, to do good in them.

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And it's just a wonderful way when you have a prodigal

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to make a huge difference in their life.

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When I raise my voice or give a sharp retort

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or use always, you always do this or you never do that,

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I am not blessing my loved one.

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In fact, the Bible would call that cursing.

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But I want to choose to bless, to encourage, to affirm,

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to speak truth with love,

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to speak words of life to my loved ones.

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So I love to think about what are the needs of my prodigal

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and think what scripture speaks to that

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and then turn those scriptures into blessings.

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Here are just a few of the blessings that I have written

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and I have a lot more or so.

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This is one of my favorites coming from Micah 7.

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May you rise when you fall

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and come out of the darkness into God's light.

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What a wonderful prayer to bless my loved one with.

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Jeremiah 24, may you be built up, not torn down.

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Planted, not uprooted.

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May you return to God with all your heart.

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And again in Jeremiah, I bet you've never read this.

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May you comprehend that it gives God joy

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to always do good to you.

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I love that.

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Oh, this is a great one from Hosea.

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May you feel cords of loving kindness

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as the Father bends down to feed you.

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Can't you just see God the Father,

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like the shepherd reaching down to provide for,

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to care for a loved sheep or our loved wandering sheep.

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It says, cords of loving kindness.

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Then Romans 8, may you know that in Christ Jesus,

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there is no condemnation.

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I think most of our Prodigals feel pretty condemned

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because they may not say that they're doing wrong,

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but they know that they're making bad choices.

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And most people condemn them.

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And God says, no, Christ Jesus, he's not condemning.

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And again in Romans 8, may you be convinced

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that nothing can separate you from the love of God.

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I love blessings.

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Okay, we're getting close.

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Giving thanks is another way that we pray.

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Now, humans aren't naturally grateful.

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Just think of parents training a young child

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after somebody does something for them

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and the parent says, now, what do you say?

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And it just seems to take a long time

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for humans to grab hold that we say thank you.

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So isn't it right that we would say thank you

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to our God, the giver of life,

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and who even gave us the gift of a Prodigal?

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We'll get to that a little later, not today.

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God has observed, however, that we are much like children.

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He knows he must remind us often to say thank you.

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But he takes it a lot further.

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He said, give thanks in all circumstances,

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for this is God's will for you and Christ Jesus.

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Says something similar in Philippians 4

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and in Ephesians 5.

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So what happens when I give thanks?

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I've talked about this in another episode,

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but just three main things.

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The first thing that happens when I say thank you

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that my Prodigal came home drunk again last night

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or is in jail or whatever.

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When I do that, when I say thank you, Lord,

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my focus changes from the problem to God himself.

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Consistently, it does.

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The second thing that happens as I dwell on that

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is that my trust begins to expand, my trust in God.

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As I see what he is doing, it opens my eyes to see

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so I can trust more.

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But it does this other thing too.

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It opens the door for God to work in this situation.

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Sometimes my resistance is like a lock on the door

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and God says, if you say thank you,

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that's a key to open the door.

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And I have a good plan here.

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So finally, even with all these ways to pray,

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I find I often pray the same things over and over

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to my father about my loved one

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and for the many others who come to a prayer

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for Prodigals asking for prayer.

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So I'm just gonna read you a few of these

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so that if you don't wanna try to work on all the others,

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you can at least do this.

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So, Father, convict her of sin

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even as you convince her of your love.

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Yes, Lord, may she recognize her sin as sin

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and comprehend how that separates her

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from a relationship with you.

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May she then recall that you desire to give grace and mercy,

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to forgive her sin and to draw her back

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into a loving relationship with you.

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Another, may he realize that you extend open arms of love,

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mercy and grace.

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When he chooses his own way

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and encounters negative consequences,

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may he turn and return to your welcome home.

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And another, break down the strongholds

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of the enemy of his soul.

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Hear and answer our requests on his behalf

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as we resist Satan and rebuke his demons.

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May our loved one grow weary of his chains and imprisonment

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and turn to you, asking you to give him liberty.

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Set him free.

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And then finally, give her a vision

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of the person you have made her to be

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and the good works you have already prepared for her.

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May she understand that your way

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is always better than her way.

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May she remember that you're always working,

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even when her circumstances don't reveal it.

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May she determine to become the person you created her to be

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and to choose to do what you made her to do.

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So we've talked about prayer, a conversation with God,

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lament, praying scripture, forgiveness,

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the battle with the evil one,

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giving blessings, giving thanks, and some sample prayers.

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I hope some of these ways and words for praying

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are helpful to you.

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Have you picked out one or two to begin with?

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I have a small booklet that expands on these prayers

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suggestions.

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Prayers for Your Wilderness Journey is available to you free

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to download when you click on the title in the show notes.

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Just click on that title

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and we will send that little booklet to you free.

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And it will give you a lot of what I've said here,

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but more as well.

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And next week, we will begin a series

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on the most powerful resource we have with our prodigals.

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The Holy Spirit.

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God bless you.